Divorce sounds like such a quick fix to hard problems in marriage.
But over and over I'm reminded...that God has a bigger plan.
I'm not saying that it will never happen to us again. We are human just like everyone else and while we are alive on this earth we are not ever immune to sin and its consequences.
We have been going through a hard spot in our marriage, and God promises if we keep pressing on, in Him, He will see us through with His plan for our lives.
(I almost put the word "but" where I placed the word "and". In learning about my co dependence, I am taught that often, I need to replace the word, "but", with the word, "and". I'm starting to like this! :)
"If thou wilt diligently hearken to the voice of the LORD thy God, and wilt do that which is right in his sight, and wilt give ear to his commandments, and keep all his statutes, I will put none of these diseases upon thee, which I have brought upon the Egyptians: for I am the LORD that healeth thee."
Divorce brings on a whole new set of problems added to the ones already in place. If there are children involved...what about them?
"For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy." 1 Corinthians 7:14
So is this saying, the children are holy (=pure), because the believing spouse stays with the unbelieving spouse? So what's the opposite? If the believing spouse divorces the unbelieving spouse, the children become unpure...?
Just a thought~ quite an interesting one!
Also, something to think about, divorce doesn't just affect the two involved in the marriage...it has lasting effects on future generations!
I urge you...before you even consider the "D" word, please do everything possible. For desperate situations, a legal separation may be in order~ 1 Corinthians 7:5 "Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency." and 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 "And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife...." Our Father's heart hurts to see His children feel the consequences of divorce.
When things feel like there is no hope, do not trust your feelings...they are fleeting. Only God's Word never changes!
"The grass withereth, the flower fadeth: but the word of our God shall stand for ever." Isaiah 40:8
Check out Deuteronomy 28 and see how the Lord will bless you when you "hearken diligently unto the voice of the Lord thy God, to observe and to do all his commandments which He commands us...pretty cool!
Don't give up on life or your spouse, keep going, our God is worth it!