I have always tried to be very careful what I put on this blog, but I was reminded several days ago, from a gal that's been down this same road, to be VERY careful what I say on this world wide web. She has an older international adopted son also, that's now in jr. High/ High School, and kids have "googled" him. They found her blog and read all about his early days in the states. They have made fun of him at school. She has since tried to delete several years of a blog, it is almost impossible to do. Not a good situation to find yourself in.
So once again I have written things in a draft, then deleted them to tighten the reigns on what I say. I have so much to share about what God is doing in this new little man in our life, but feel I need to be even more careful. He is such a blessing to us and continually makes us laugh. Let's just say he's very thankful, even down to the style of his hair. Coming from a life of being told what to do your whole life, and not having anything that's "yours", it's nice to have a few things to call your own, including your own style.
|His hair while in Ukraine|
|Vitaliy was excited to wear his hair like this for Wacky Day at School (Spirit Week)|
He is having a lot of fun being himself. He is learning the rules at school and the things you do and don't do to others just to get others to laugh at you. Our family has all received letters in the mail from him while he's learning to write sentences in English at school.
If he's outside for any amount of time, be prepared to have your firewood stocked......
|Pic taken after school on Wacky Day|
.....animals fed and things fixed that you didn't know were broken. :) And if you can't find him or the dog, they're usually over the back hill running around exploring. Watch out if that's the case, he'll come inside covered in mud or dirt!
We have enjoyed almost 4 months of being a family of 5. He is such a blessing to us. Ian's favorite thing to do with his older brother is play basketball. V likes to make his sister laugh, and ride the 4 wheeler with his dad. He has told me, "You're a good mom." Melt my heart. We are all learning what it means to love.
It is so hard for us and our other adoption friends to understand why more people do not embrace adoption. When it comes to adoption/ hosting, I've heard some say, "if only we were younger...". There are a 1,000 excuses in the book. I met a couple while going through the adoption process who are retirement age! They adopted 3 teenagers. When you look at the big picture, Josh and I only have about 6 years with Vitaliy. It's not like these kids are babies. They don't need you to get up with them several times in the middle of the night to change their diapers and feed them. They need someone to love them and point them in the right direction. We have a picture of a 14 year old boy on our fridge right now in the foster care system. It is sweet to hear the kids pray that God will give him a family. When we think adoption, we automatically think international. Orphans are everywhere. In Kansas alone there are 850 orphans ready to be adopted into a family! What does God want you to do?
How about a suitcase drive for the kiddos in the foster system? Did you know they are given a black trash bag to collect their "belongings" before they're taken into the "system"? If that doesn't make a young person feel like trash I don't know what would.
Check out the above website of a group in Kansas called Project Belong. They are doing what they can to help these kids. God is at work all around us, if only we would open our eyes, seek His face and do what He asks us to do. I beg of Him to give us a heart like His, "set us ablaze for you O God." I pray that we can see others through His eyes.
Remember, we are God's hands and feet.
"For as the body is one, and hath many members, and all the members of that one body, being many, are one body: so also is Christ." 1 Corinthians 12:12
What is He calling YOU to DO?
If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land. 2 Chronicles 7:14